1. First, hope everyone had a safe, fun Halloween. I did. :D
So i found another trigger and that is when I am with my girlfriend's family.
I know it sounds really bad but its...not? My girlfriend's family is extremely white-washed.
And their use of language consists the word sh*t a lot. So during the time i spent with them, I probably said sh*t as often as they did. That's a lot. I was pretty disappointed with myself because I didn't even catch myself saying it because it was thrown around so casually. My cursing was going really well up until that point, but afterward i noticed i was doing myself wrong the whole time. And I handed over money to my girlfriend (which she loved, because she doesn't have a job and needs money). I was really sad. There goes my tires. ****. bleeped out so it doesn't count. I handed over an estimated 50 dollars and another 10 because I didn't catch myself in time. I noticed its very hard for me to control my language when I feel too comfortable or if cussing is considered a norm.
2. The use of my punishment made me much more consciously aware of what i'm saying, each word goes through a PG detector before it comes out of my mouth. I sort of talk the sentence in my head, then if it clears, it comes out. Sounds like a lot of work huh?
3. I think i am really making a lot of progress. I came from dropping the F bomb every other sentence to not cursing at all, with some exceptions. But i think i should change the punishment to put money into my savings instead of giving it to my girlfriend, shes enjoying it too much. She tries to get me to cuss sometimes. Mean. But I'm surprised that I am progressing so fast. I was expecting this to be much more difficult, but i guess the difficult part is trying not to cuss when everyone else is instead of not cussing just for my own sake.
I dont really see a lot regarding quitting cussing since it has become a part of the norm, but when it comes to showing professionalism, cussing is....bad! haha....im at a loss for words. too much thinking.
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Dude.... giving up money??? That sounds pretty intense. lol.
ReplyDeleteEither way, even if you are still cussing, the fact that you have downgraded from saying "fuck" to "shit" is still some form of progression. Soon you'll move on to "damn", "crap", and "oh no" or something to that effect.
I know it's hard to stop cussing, so any improvement is good improvement.
Could you also try implementing new words to replace cuss words? For example, I started saying "aw balls" in replacement of "aw shit" because it seemed more classy.... I know that it's not.
But you get the idea.
And the punishment definitely seems to be working.
Could you also bring in your girlfriend for rewards?
Like reward her for encouraging following your targeted behavior? For example, offer her ten dollars for encouraging you not to cuss and you following through and only offer her five for if you do cuss.
It would need more structure, but it might help her actually join your side of this epic battle. lol.
First of all I wish I was your girlfriend. That is the best way to make money I have ever heard of! I have never really had a problem with cursing but I bet if you just always try to imagine being in a situation where cursing would be terrible, like a job interview, that would help. I know being around people who curse a lot can't help so maybe you should dump your girlfriend and just hang out with my family and give me money instead.
ReplyDeleteSteven is so funny. However, I can understand how hard it is to really refrain from doing something when a whole group of people around you are doing the same thing. It is like when my parents are up watching a movie, or my brother is up playing games and I have to drag myself to sleep when I know that I want to join them. Oh well, just imagine how happy you are making your girlfriend by giving her all of this money! However, cursing is never that bad, I can understand in some situations where you might accidentally cuss, you can perhaps give yourself a few "excuse" days, just in case you accidentally stub your toe or something. Like Steven said, imagining being a job interview helps or like in a church or in front of your grandma or something might help to reform the behavior in your mind.
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